This has to be the question of the century…
I think most or all of us can safety say that we can choose between a bad thing and a good thing. For instance, faced with certain death or certain life we will choose life. Unless we are a martyr or suicidal…
We choose the good over the bad.
Yet, there are many circumstances in life that present us with two or more good options.
We are presented with two great places to live. Two potential mates that would be good for us. Two potential jobs that would be good for us. Two choices of what you are going to eat for dinner.
We plague ourselves with doubt and uncertainty because we look at two good things and believe one must be better than the other.
Maybe they are, maybe they aren’t. Yet we are convinced that they must be different in some way, shape, or form. And if they are different than one must certainly be better than the other. Right?
We could just be comparing apples and oranges though…
Take for example looking at two different places to live (a current dilemma of mine).
Each place has it’s pros and cons. Where I currently live I enjoy a great lifestyle and have a great job that gets better every year. What I don’t have is my family who lives on the other side of the nation.
Do I stick with what I got which is great or move back for something great as well? Comparing apples and oranges right?
The thing is, probably neither decision is better than the other. Just different.
I’ve laid everything out on paper. Done the whole pros and cons list. But then how do I decide?
Pick the one with more pros? Do I weigh them by priority? How do I do it?
I’ve done it every way I know how and yet for some reason I can not make the decision even though it is spelled out clearly on paper.
For me, the biggest thing keeping me from making a decision is how big it feels. It’s life changing! Whatever decision I make will change the course of my history. For better or for worse.
And you know what?
That’s ok. Yes, it is big and yes my life will be forever different. Yet, one may not be better than the other.
I do know this though. When all of your logical reasoning runs out, at the end of the day, your gut often has the answer for you. And it was waiting to give it to you all along…