The colossal misunderstanding of our time is the assumption that insight will work with people who are unmotivated to change. Communication does not depend on syntax, or eloquence, or rhetoric, or articulation but on the emotional context in which the message is being heard. People can only hear you when they are moving toward you, and they are not likely to when your words are pursuing them. Even the choicest words lose their power when they are used to overpower. Attitudes are the real figures of speech. -Edwin Friedman
This is something I learned long ago…. the hard way…
I watch people doing this all the time and it frustrates me. They talk and talk and talk to a deaf audience that has no interest in listening to them. They are wasting their breath…
The sages of old knew that words were of little value. To this day the cliche stands true that actions speak louder than words… They taught their lessons to their pupils through life lessons and experiences. They knew that before they could teach anything they needed to prepare the student…
Before the clay could be molded it first needed to be softened. It had to be made pliable. Then it could be worked with. No one can work with hard clay or too soft of clay for that matter.
Too hard and you can’t shape it, too soft and it doesn’t hold it’s form long enough. Only after you make the clay workable and shape it, can you fire and harden it, and use it for a purpose.
Here at insight writer I can only give you what I have learned. I can apply object lessons and analogies, stories and statistics, but you have to make the decision and the effort to change for the better. To allow yourself to be molded into whatever good purpose you can imagine.
No amount of insight can help you until you are ready to help you.
So just think about that for awhile, and allow this idea to settle into your mind. It will be good to have this perspective for the long haul….
Originally posted 2009-06-02 19:16:41. Republished by Blog Post Promoter