Is it true or untrue? Is beauty a curse or a blessing?
“Don’t hate me because I am beautiful”
That statement has certainly made it through the years. Most of us in the US know it, but have no idea where it comes from (supposedly a Pantene Pro-V shampoo commercial).
Does our jealousy of other people’s beauty make us hate them? I would say that sadly there is some truth to this.
Nearly everyone thinks everyone else is more superficial then they are. Yet when we look in the mirror what do we see? We see ourselves on some sliding scale with a rank based on how we compare to someone elses beauty among other things.
We put some type of perceived importance on beauty. Often making assumptions about how many guys or girls they can date, or how great a job they got because they are good looking. While these may be true there is certainly a down side.
Girls can’t find a guy who will like them in more than a superficial way and they are constantly getting hit on. Guys may win the top dog position at work, but everyone thinks they are a jerk. It’s lonely at the top.
And it is certainly isn’t true in all circumstances, but it happens enough to make us wonder about it and to take notice.
I am writing from a guy’s perspective but it seems like women have it a lot worse. Our society makes it so.
Have you ever seen the movie Mean Girls? Well if you have you know what I mean. If you haven’t just understand that girls will do things to their supposed friends that guys can’t even fathom. Guys go fight in the street when they have a problem but girls rip each other’s still beating hearts out of their chests. One can also argue that guys have a problem with each other only once in a great while, but girls let things build to astronomical proportions over time.
What does this have to do with beauty?
I’ve seen girls gossip about and backstab their friends because they thought they were hitting on their guy. Even among friends they still play the “who is more beautiful” game.
Not to mention the expectations our society sets up for beautiful people. Now be honest. Do we not have high expectations for beautiful people? Don’t we expect them to go far? And for ugly people? Do we expect much at all from them? Or do we not even give them the time of day to even begin to develop any expectations of them?
While expectations can be good I think they are mostly evil because they are false. I don’t know about you, but I would rather have people have no expectations of me, rather than have high expectations that I can not fulfill. That’s a perfect recipe for a stressed out life.
On the flip side, people may also have low expectations of a beautiful person because they are beautiful and they may not get opportunities to improve themselves. Their intelligence wasted because beauty got in the way. Food for thought…
But I digress… what are your thoughts? What is your take on this curse, or blessing? Would you be more beautiful if you could, taking all that comes with it?