There are some things I come to appreciate more as I am advanced in years. One, is a good handshake. Two, is a great hug.
We know from research (and our own experience) that non-verbal signals speak louder than words.
A good handshake is much to be admired. I love it when someone gives me a nice firm handshake and looks me in the eye. This tells me a couple things…
One, that this person cares about such things and is probably a like-minded person.
Two, that this person is someone who we would refer to as “good people”.
Three, that their intent is on me and they are truly pleased to meet me.
That says a lot about a person before they even have a further chance to speak. When I know someone is interested in me I care about them a little more than any other random stranger I meet on the street. And, I want to get to know them more.
To give a great handshake is simple. Just do these things…
- Firmly grip the persons hand. Nothing is worse than holding a limp fish.
- Hold the person’s hand for 3-5 seconds. Most people hold the other person’s hand for only a second or two. This may seem arbitrary, but time really does matter.
- Look them in the eye. This shows them you care about them and really want to engage with them.
- Think about using two hands. Very few people use two hands to give a handshake. Using two hands emphasizes your engagement even more. Placing your other hand on their shoulder is also something to consider.
- Be Genuine. Your body speaks louder than your words, but your words still matter. If you engage someone like this say what you mean, and mean what you say.
Giving great hugs is very similar to giving a great handshake. Hug a little tighter and a little longer. Look them in the eye before and after you are done. Use both hands. And be genuine.
Finally, always smile. A smile is just the icing on the cake that is needed. 🙂