I agree with Jeremy on that last comment. I am perfectly content with my life and only hope my kids have as good of a life as I’ve had so far. not that I haven’t had my problems, but I feel lucky to be breathing and have food in the fridge. I find money to be a source of stress, so I choose to be content with the amount I have. I put others first for the sake of their happiness and my thoughts on karma. It’s ok to be wrong sometimes. As a matter of fact my girlfriends and I had a good laugh today and thats how I came across this site. one of our boyfriends made a joke yesterday and three of us ladies went home offended thinking it was about us, turns out it wasn’t about any of us and we yelled at our boyfriends for nothing. the term “words of wisdom from the mouth of babes” was used and I wanted to know what that meant, and this article popped up.
Anyways it’s naive to think your always right, or blame someone else for giving you the wrong information. You live, you learn.
Cheers.

I think what you say has a lot of truth to it. Who honestly knows, but God?

I think you have reached a false assumption though. It is easy to think that because you have experienced so much in this life that you really can’t be told new info. That you have a certain grasp on life and that you are being realistic.

However, in my mind, being realistic means accepting that you can’t be right 100% of the time. It is a physical impossibility and can be eventually proved true no matter how high your batting average goes.

Not everyone looks out for #1 first (some of these people I call living martyrs), not everyone cares that much about their kids, and not everyone cares to have more money. I think these are sweeping generalizations you are making, and I think as a realist you should be more accepting of the facts that are right in front of you.

Cheers,
Jeremy

I personally DO think I’m always right – given the information I have already been given in my life. If you can present to me some information I have not yet consumed, I will listen to it and possibly change my thinking.

Herein lies the problem: I have lived in 15 states and 3 countries in the 32 years I’ve been alive. I have visited almost every state and about 25 countries. Taking away simplistic things like customs and language, people are the same throughout the world: they look out for #1 first, they want their kids to have a better life than they have had, they want more money, etc. Therefore, it’s pretty tough to provide “new” information to me. Am I extreme? I don’t think so – I’m realistic. Who knows anything for certain except God?

Thanks for provoking thought.

Cheers…

I have views on spirituality which I have come to after a great deal of research and thought. I am very happy with my views and believe that I am right. Normally I am very open to considering other points of view but on this matter I feel that I’ve considered other people’s views for long enough. I’ve made my decisions and I’m happy to stick with them.

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OMG, you mean I was really ‘right’?? I’m glad we think alike anyway. Doesn’t mean we’re both right necessarily, but it’s nice to belong to a group, even if just a ‘thought’ group. Thanks for asking the question and making us all think!

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This post really highlighted just how differently I think about this subject. It seems like Daphne was the one who really got the main thrust of the article. And that was that we should stop to consider other people’s point of view. That there are valuable lessons to be learned there.

I must say that I care deeply about whether I am right or not. And I do want unsolicited advice if it means accepting what is right. That is what friends are for, right? To make sure we can conquer our own follies and shortsightedness.

Again, there is a balance. We should never follow people blindly. But we should never hold resolutely to our opinions without first examining why we hold them. Are we right or wrong? I hope thinking about this helps us get closer to a sense of “rightness” about our lives.

Cheers,
Jeremy

Also, each situation we are in, is very different, so the “one size fits all” solution does not work.

I also say, stick to your gut, listen to yourself, stop looking for the answer out there.

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